Just follow this expert advice from Michael Castleman, author of Great Sex: A Man's Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex, and Louanne Cole Weston, PhD, a board certified sex therapist and resident expert for WebMD's "Sex Matters®" message boards.
1. Couples that have been together for a while need to plan time for sex.
2. Take regular nights away from home. Find a place that is stripped of reminders of everyday life.
3. Think up with some fantasy-like ideas, telling your partner about them could be fun for both of you.
4. You need to ask your partner the same questions that you've asked yourself. What does your partner want from your love life?
5. Make some changes at home. Lighting some candles is an obvious suggestion. But maybe getting a nicer set of sheets and a new bedspread will make a difference.
6. Trying something new in the bedroom is a pretty obvious suggestion for attaining a better love life, but it's one that many people have trouble following.
7. Don't ignore sexual problems. Make sure there are no secrets between you and your partner.
8. Go slow. Some couples find that, the longer they're together, the briefer and more businesslike their sexual encounters can become.
9. Don't worry about what everyone else is doing. Find what works for you.
10. Keep trying. Having a better sex life will take some work.
For most of us it is probably not as simple as just following a few rules, but it's a start. Think of this Valentine's Day as a time to start fresh and revitalize your love life. Following these rules could indeed be the start of a better love life that lasts, but i'd still make sure to buy the flowers and the card for good measure.
Happy Valentine's Day!
